How to Develop a NEVER GIVE UP ATTITUDE – By Dr. Hardik Joshi

 

The Book about:

Everyone have their dreams but very few have the ability to see it in reality. In the journey of making the dreams into reality people get into the trap of fear, frustration, depression and anxiety. People surrender in front of them and continue to live the stereotype life.

In this book the author has prescribed eleven qualities that is required in a person’s life to overcome this mind blocks and imbibe the “Never Give Up” attitude in one’s self.

The Author:

Dr. Hardik Joshi is the founder and CEO of Thums Up foundation. He is a motivational speaker, trainer and writer with the mission to spread awareness about the mental health.

The Book:

The Author has described all the eleven qualities required for developing a never give up attitude. Each chapter describes a quality in details by point by point analysis.

First Quality: Dream

Dream is like foundation of a building. It is the base on which you work towards achieving something. Dream is like the heart of the body. Dream must have the following qualities

Ø  The dream must be original: it should be one’s own and should come from inner self

Ø  Clarity about the dream: we must be specific about our dream

Ø  Be passionate about the dream:

Ø  Our dream is what we decide to be: Never forget that it is our own decision to make it reality

Ø  Being proud of our talent: Dream must be according to our individual talent.

Ø  Be ready to pay the price: We must be ready to get out of the comfort zone and put our best effort.

Ø  Have the right people in the team: Team mates must understand and value the dream, and ready to every effort to make the dream reality.

Second Quality: Visualization

Visualization is like pillar of the foundation. Visualization gives us the will to achieve what we want to. What you visualize you materialize. To visualize the dream the author has suggested some techniques.

Ø  Use of senses: Use your five senses together to visualize the dream.

Ø  Acting Out: Try acting out your dream as a reality during visualization

Ø  Writing down the visualization: Write down the dream with clear description

Ø  Making a vision Board: Use photographs, newspaper and magazine cut-outs and other visual triggers.

Ø  Using props: Write down the prop in a place so that it gets noticed frequently.

Third Quality: Affirmation

In today’s world lot of negative energies surround us through negative news, negative incidents, negative personalities, different media like news paper, magazine, television, social media etc. Most of the time, we as human being keep on reinforcing our negative beliefs, knowingly, or unknowingly.

To get a positive result in our life we have to come out from the negative thinking and negative environment around us and start on positive things. Positivity in our self is the basic for affirmation. When we practice affirmation, we develop a deep sense of confidence to convert any kind of dream into reality. With affirmation we believe that nothing is impossible.

The author has suggested the following things for creating affirmation

·         The mind should be in a relaxed mode, free from everyday tension.

·         Repeat an affirmation at least hundred times.

·         Sentences used in affirmation must be in present, not in future tense.

·         Avoid negative words in affirmation

Fourth Quality: Plan

Plan is the sail that moves the dream boat in the right direction, so that the boat reaches the destination within the stipulated timeframe set by us. The author has advised the following points to consider for proper planning.

Ø  Keeping a record: A to-do list, problems faced during the execution, solutions, milestones achieved etc.

Ø  Being clear and specific about work:

Ø  Writing the plan clearly

Ø  Fixing measurable milestones.

Ø  Setting the timeframes

Ø  Marking objectives when done.

Ø  Revising the plan if necessary

 Fifth Quality: Effort

At the beginning of any dream, the effort to do the work is higher, but as time passes, the effort starts reducing due to some internal as well as external factors. To make the work successful it is very much necessary to maintain the effort throughout the job till it completes.

We should ask ourselves, am I doing everything I can to transform my dream into reality? If the answer is yes, we are putting the best effort required. If not, then we are lacking in our efforts. We are the best judges of ourselves than any other person in the world. We cannot lie to ourselves.

 Sixth Quality: Focus

When we start working on a dream, after sometime we lose momentum due to various reasons like, lack of resources, family problems etc. The author has suggested few steps to keep focused on the dream.

Ø  Kicking out the garbage from mind: by doing meditation, taking a break from routine, talking with friends’ relative or coach, avoiding past regrets and future worries, writing journal.

Ø  Avoid multitasking: by doing one task at a time, finishing one task first, and then starting on another, cleaning the workplace, decreasing the disturbances, assigning times to tasks.

Ø  Be the master of technology not slave.

Seventh Quality: Determination

Determination is a strong will that can never be broken by anything or anyone while chasing our dream. Determination may lose due to lack of will power, lack of self-belief, lack of self-discipline and lack of flexible nature during uncertain situations.

Determination can be developed through

Ø  Increasing willpower

Ø  Increase in self belief

Ø  Developing discipline

Ø  Increasing flexibility

Eighth Quality: Self- Motivation

Self motivation is a person’s ability to fulfill a dream or goal without getting affected by interruptions in the form of people and circumstances.

Some factors decrease our motivations, like Fear, procrastination, criticism, lack of positivity around the self. Fear needs to be analyzed and a plan to overcome this. Procrastination pulls us back because lots of time, the work we are doing are not pleasurable. Constructive criticism should be taken positively and use it as tool for improvement, while put a distance from destructive criticism.

Ninth Quality: Persistence

Persistence is the ability to be dedicated and committed to ones purpose, regardless of the setbacks along the way. It is the ability to stick with something until it gets done.

The negative qualities which encourages us, not be persistent are, Impatience, Eagerness to quit, Habit of blaming others and situations and Laziness.

Tenth Quality: Gratitude

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and showing appreciation for an act of kindness. Benefits of being gratitude are

Ø  Gratitude makes us happy

Ø  Gratitude makes the relationship stronger

Ø  Gratitude makes us healthy

Ø  Gratitude helps us sleep better

Ø  Gratitude increases our tolerance

Ø  Gratitude makes us kind

Ø  Gratitude develops our personality and carrier

Eleventh Quality: Celebration

Lot of time we hesitate to acknowledge the achievement and push back to celebration. If we do not celebrate the little achievements, we do not enjoy our work, it may create self doubt, guilt, errors in work, procrastination; reduce self respect, self love, and self acceptance. Some benefits of celebrations are.

Ø  Celebration helps us stay in present

Ø  Celebration increases self-love, self-acceptance and self respect

Ø  Celebration amplifies positivity

Ø  Celebration helps us in achieving future dreams

Throughout the book the author has put forward so many examples to describe each and every point with benefits, stories etc. His own life example he has described, how he has overcome his obstacles with NEVER GIVE UP attitude.

You should read the book and you will be benefited with encouragement as well as path to make your dreams into reality.